Dear Vicki: Thanks to your blog, I’m beginning to understand the impact our energies have on our relationships. I’ve heard you say that one of the best things we can do for our relationships is to keep ourselves balanced, but it seems harder and harder to stay balanced these days. There’s so much going on in the world with all the natural disasters lately and even a growing threat of war. My personal life is much more intense, as well. I work in a daycare center and the children are more agitated, their parents are more stressed, and it feels like I can’t do enough to keep everyone happy. How can we keep ourselves and our relationships balanced when things are so stressed and crazy? Signed: Worried for Us All
Dear Worried: There does seem to be more stress in the world these days. We have had devastating hurricanes, typhoons, flooding, fires, and earthquakes affect every continent in the past few years. Political issues around the world have created their own kind of stress, as well. Add to this whatever is going on in our individual lives, and we have a recipe for imbalance in our energies. But we have choices in how we address stress, and the Five Elements model offers us informed options. That’s another beautiful aspect of the Five Elements model – it simplifies what can be a highly complex situation.
From a Five Elements perspective, the model says there are only two ways the elements can become imbalanced. They can move to a state of over energy (excess) or under energy (deficiency). And when that happens, the fix for the imbalance sits in the interactions of the elements with each other. This is simple and easy at a model level, but does get a bit more complicated when applied to the human personalities the elements represent. However, it’s still surprisingly easy to identify what’s out of balance when we’re stressed and take appropriate steps to relieve the stress and regain balance.